The In-Between

a coming home to self before the next chapter begins

There are times in life when you might find yourself at a crossroads. You’re moving forward and need to make a decision between two paths. This or that. You decide, and momentum continues. The decision allows you to grow, learn, adjust, and re-evaluate. It allows you to keep moving forward. This tends to fall in line with the advice we often receive in life - to make a decision and move forward. Learn from that decision and keep going.

But what about when the decision is to do nothing? This decision doesn’t feel so black and white. The momentum isn’t as tangible. Sometimes the decision is to stop something that is no longer serving you. To pause. To allow yourself the time and space to not. do. anything.

I call this space the in-between. It’s neither here nor there. You’re not exactly where you want to end up, and even if it might not feel like it, you’re exactly where you need to be.

Maybe it’s a time of healing, of going inward. Maybe your body needs rest, and this time allows you to finally get out of fight-or-flight mode. Or maybe you’ve been going full speed in the wrong direction for so long that you don’t even recognize which direction is right for you. You’ve been living life for someone or something else, conditioned to operate in a way that isn’t truly you. Pulling back, remembering who you are, and making decisions from an authentic, grounded place can take time.

In these moments, the momentum won’t feel clear. But it’s there. You need this intentional pause.

It’s like you’re speeding down the highway toward a city of lights. But something in the back of your mind nags at you to get off the road, something doesn’t feel right. And you listen. You pull over, get out of your car, and walk around. Maybe you sit on a bench and take some deep breaths. Journal. This doesn’t feel like momentum. But trust that it is. The decision was to stop and listen. You’re now in the in-between.

Know that this isn’t a waste of time. This is part of the process. You needed to interrupt the inertia because it was taking you further from where you needed to be. It wasn’t your path, your plan, or your truth.

After some rest and reflection, you realize the city of lights wasn’t for you. You wanted to be heading toward a cabin by a lake, surrounded by nature. If you hadn’t paused, you would have gone too far in the wrong direction. It would have been that much more difficult to course correct and find your way back. What felt like progress and momentum was actually carrying you further from where you needed to be.

You needed this intentional pause.

If you’re currently in the in-between, I applaud you. It’s not always easy to slow momentum, stop, and be present. But sometimes it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. 🤍

If you’re not in the in-between but feel a quiet nudge that it might be right for you, I encourage you to listen. It just might be the best decision you’ve ever made.